Sex Mistakes Women Make

Think you know everything about sex? Unfortunately, there’s lots of room for error when it comes to matters of the body. Do you obsess about how you look? Too embarrassed to give him directions? Not open to trying new things? Here are some of the mistakes you’re making.

Sex Mistake #1: Assuming he’s always up for sex. This might hold true for teenage boys, but not men. Once men hit their mid-20s, many things compete for their energy. Work pressures, responsibilities and everyday life can dampen the libido. If he’s not into it, it doesn’t mean he doesn’t desire you anymore. He truly may not be in the mood.

Sex Mistake #2:Thinking sex ends when he climaxes.Just because he’s fulfilled doesn’t mean you are. Let him know you haven’t finished and help him find ways to get you there with his hands or mouth*double wink*.
If he’s consistently too tired to give you the attention you deserve, have your needs met before his own next time.

Sex Mistake #3: Obsessing about your bodyYou're not exactly excited about the numbers on the scale… so what? Putting on weight is no excuse for avoiding sex.
Or maybe your weight is fine, but you’re fixating on another flaw. Guess what? If he wants to have sex with you, he thinks you’re sexy.

If your self-image is hindering your sex life, consult a therapist(not too many around but they exist), read a motivational book or visit blogs like this one. Remember knowledge is power(and confidence).

Sex Mistake #4: Not giving him any guidance.Pleasing a woman is no easy task, so help him out. Give him explicit directions – when, where, how hard, how fast and more.
If you’re too embarrassed to cue him verbally, find another way. For example, if you’re watching a sex scene in a movie(I didn't say porn), say something like, “I like how he does that” or “That doesn’t do it for me.”
Or bookmark pages in a sex book and ask him to read them. Or let out a moan when he does something that pleases you. I always tell friends and patients this: when it comes to sex, communication is key.

Sex Mistake #5: Overreacting when he suggests something new.
I'm sure I've talked about this somewhere else on this blog. Most of us do the same thing day in and day out. And whether it’s in the bedroom or the boardroom, routine can get boring. Men like looking at, trying out and experimenting with new things.
There’s nothing wrong about it. Suggesting something new is not a criticism of you. It’s simply a craving for variety. So have an open mind.

I'm off to work now. We'll talk about more mistakes women make in the bedroom later in the day. Ciao!

the Risks of Having Multiple Sex Partners

As new diseases crop up and research gives light to more concerns, the risks of having multiple sex partners are increasing. You may find sex enjoyable and want new experiences. Or perhaps you aren't currently in a relationship but want sexual satisfaction. This is normal...but it can also be dangerous. It is important to take safety precautions, such as condom use and regular medical testing, to avoid the following risks.

Pubic Lice. Pubic lice are similar to head lice and live in pubic hair. They bite the skin and suck out blood, causing itching, and general discomfort. Many times the pubic hair must be shaved as part of the treatment.

Urinary Tract Infections. Urinary tract infections aren't considered a sexually transmitted infection, but they are more common in someone with multiple sex partners. Symptoms typically include a burning type pain during urination, as well as rectal pain in men and pelvic pain in women.

Syphilis. Syphilis starts off as a single sore on the genital area. If left untreated, it can cause catastrophic complications including aortic aneurysm, blindness, and irreversible brain damage.

Chlamydia. Chlamydia infects 50 million new people worldwide each year. Symptoms typical of chlamydia are discharge and painful urination. Men often time don't have any symptoms and so the infection goes untreated, which can lead to complications later on in life.

Gonorrhea. Gonorrhea is a bacterial sexually transmitted infection. It can cause even more severe symptoms than other STDs, especially abdominal pain, fever, and sepsis. The biggest risk factor in getting gonorrhea is having multiple sex partners.

Genital Herpes. Herpes causes painful sores to erupt on the genitals. There is no cure for herpes and recurrent break outs throughout life are common. Some people may have as many as three breakouts per year. Sores do not have to be present for the infection to spread, so it's hard to know if someone you're having sex with has this virus.

Hepatitis C. Having multiple sex partners significantly increases your risk of contracting a serious whole body infection. This is an infection that is not confined to the genital. The most common disease in this category is Hepatitis C. Hepatitis C is a viral infection that damages the liver. It is the number one cause of liver transplantation in the United States, a major risk factor for both liver scarring and liver cancer, and can only be cured in 50 percent of affected people. The treatment is painful and intensive. Pills and shots are given. The treatment has many side effects, specifically fatigue, nausea, anemia, and headache.

HIV. HIV is the incurable virus that causes AIDS. It attacks the body's immune system, eventually causing the body to become unable to protect itself against infection and cancer. Death is the end result, and is usually due to an infection which the body was unable to fight off. An estimated 33 million people currently have it. A study done by the The Center For AIDS Prevention Studies in San Francisco, California found having multiple sex partners to be the leading cause of HIV infection, surpassing bisexuality and I.V. drug use.

Cancer. Undetected STIs can cause cancer in both sexes. Men with multiple sex partners are three times more likely to get prostate cancer, due to Trichomonas vaginalis. This is the most common non viral STI with over 170 million cases seen annually. The infection is not symptomatic in men so most men don't get treated. The continuous inflammation in the prostate can lead to prostate cancer. In women, cervical cancer is common and is due to the Human Papillomavirus, or HPV.

Infertility. Scarring from untreated infections can also lead to infertility in both men and women. Infertility due to infection is usually a result of the inability of fertilization to occur. In men, the scarring narrows the passageway through which the sperm come out. This causes a blockage and sperm remain trapped in the man's body. In women, cervical scarring makes it difficult for sperm to get to the egg. Cervical scarring is also connected to miscarriage. Because having multiple sex partners increases the risk of catching an infection, it is considered a risk factor for infertility.

Remember the ABCs

Abstinence

Be Faithful

Condomize

Health Benefits of Morning Sex

What is the best cardio workout in the morning? Hint: Everyone secretly wishes it was the only exercise needed to keep fit. Studies show that three rounds of morning sex a day will give you a healthy heart. Surprising? Here's a list of the health benefits of morning sex...

1) Improves blood circulation therefore reducing blood pressure.

2) Flushes out 300 calories an hour, reducing your chances of diabetes.

3) You don’t have to worry about migraine.

4) Joint pains especially arthritis will ease.

5) Sex without condoms will leave you happier and ward off depression.

6) Natural glow is what we are looking for, this could be your answer.

7) The release of hormones guarantees silky shining hair.

8) Sexual anxiety takes a backseat, nothing can bring you down.

9) Improves your immunity by increasing the production of antibody IgA.

10) Men can last longer, since they're fresh from a night's rest.

11) A great way to wake up and energise yourself.

Point to note for women: After a good night's sleep, the testosterone levels in men spike. And when high, it converts to sexual feelings.

Point to note for men: Keep protection at arm’s length(only with your trusted partner!)

How to Spice Things Up in the Bedroom

Having a great sex life is something that doesn't usually come naturally, at least after a while. Sometimes after couples have been together for a number of years, things in the bedroom can get boring and stale. Today we will talk about how you can breathe new life into the way you have sex with each other, so you can get closer in ways that you never imagined possible before.

One great way to have better sex at night is to get plenty of sleep in the morning. To make sure you have the proper energy level when it comes time to get into bed, you have to make sure that you are up to the job. This means getting your full 8 hours of sleep and cutting down on the red bull/power horse/alcohol and food right before bed. This is a major contributor to a lack of energy and will end up dragging you down if you don't change your ways.

Exploring new things like role playing(that's right-get kinky) and using different positions are also things have many couples have found helpful in the past. These will get you into a new and exciting place with each other, something that many people just aren't brave enough to do. Even if you are having sex, it may still be getting a little boring. To make things a little bit more enjoyable and exciting, it is important to test your limits and go places that you have never explored before with your partner.

To have a great sex life you must also be communicating with your partner about what he or she likes. This is critical because by doing this you will gain a much better understanding of how to make your partner happy in bed. Often times only one of the people in the relationship is enjoying themselves, not even knowing that the other is just going through the motions. By sitting down and talking about what it is you like and dislike, you may discover things you never knew before about yourself and your partner.

7 Ways Exercise Can Improve Your Sex Life

If you want to turn up the heat in the bedroom, it can be as simple as lacing up your sneakers. After all, staying in shape doesn’t just help you look good—it can enhance your sex life as well. Physical fitness absolutely affects the physical intensity and quality of sex. Sex is a kind of exercise itself *wink*. So here are the top 7 ways exercise can boost your sex life:

1. It Boosts Blood Flow
It just makes sense: The more you exercise, the healthier your arteries—including the ones that go between your legs. A cardio routine to get the blood pumping) Exercise increases the flexibility of your arteries, so it's easier for them to expand and get blood coursing through your veins. And for men, the better your blood flow, the stronger your erection.

2. It Boosts Testosterone 
Pumping iron can help pump up your levels of the sex hormone testosterone, too. Research shows that men's testosterone is highest during the 48hrs after a workout.

3. It Makes You More Reliable
Before you hit the Viagra, try hitting the gym instead. Studies show that exercise can cause men to have sex more often, and it can make them more reliable, too. Men who exercise often report sex that is more frequent, more reliable and more satisfying.

4. It Improves our Stamina
To put it bluntly: Men, the better shape you’re in, the longer you’ll last in bed. In most sex positions, the man needs to push, so he needs to have strong back muscles. Plus, when you’re fit, your ejaculation lasts longer, and loose abdominal muscles or weak PC muscles(muscles that contract during ejaculation) might affect the angle or erection.

5. It improves Flexibility
While trying out new sex positions might require some imagination, seeing how you can pull a muscle in the process doesn’t. If you’re not flexible enough, you can’t strain yourself to do things when you’re exploring and becoming more adventurous in bed. 
If you want to get a little kinky beneath the sheets, lengthening and strengthening exercises (no pun intended) can help you contort your body. To keep your muscles flexible, yoga and Pilates(google it) are excellent exercise options. 

6. It Gets You In The Mood

Whether they’re worrying about their children or making a shopping list for the next day, women are particularly prone to a mind that wanders during sex. And since, for women, emotions play such a large part in getting turned on, drifting thoughts can lower sexual satisfaction. Luckily, exercising can help you get more in tune with your body and emotion in the moment. Yoga and breathing exercises can teach you to how to cut out external distractions so you can concentrate in the moment.

7. It Makes You Feel Hot

Exercise makes you look good and feel good—and that confidence carries over to the bedroom. Research shows  that people who are physically fit also see themselves as hotter commodities and better in bed. More than 90% of men who say they have a much-above-average fitness level also rank their sexual desirability and performance as above average or much above average. Among women, 80% of those who work out four to five days a week rate their bedroom antics as above average, and 60% of them think of themselves as above average on an attractiveness scale. 

So grab that knapsack, strap on those sneakers, and hit the gym.

7 Foods for Great Sex

If you want to put some sizzle back into your sex life, food can help you set the mood. There’s nothing better than a romantic, home-cooked dinner, featuring some R-rated foods to help turn up the heat. There’s a growing body of evidence that some of the vitamins and components in foods can enhance sexual function and sexual experience. 

Here are some of the food that have been major players in aphrodisiac history and also have modern-day science to back up their claims.

1. Avocados

The ancient Aztecs referred to avocados as umm...testicles, because of their physical shape. But the scientific reason why avocados make sense as an aphrodisiac is that they are rich in unsaturated fats and low in saturated fat, making them good for your heart and your arteries. Anything that keeps the heart beating strong helps keep blood flowing to all the right places; in fact, men with underlying heart disease are twice as likely to suffer from erectile dysfunction (ED). 

2. Almonds

Almonds have long been purported to increase passion, act as a sexual stimulant, and aid with fertility. Almonds are nutrient-dense and rich in several trace minerals that are important for sexual health and reproduction, such as zinc, selenium, and vitamin E.  Zinc helps enhance libido and sexual desire.  Scientists don’t really understand the mechanisms behind it, but we know it works.

3. Strawberries

The color red is known to turn us on: A 2008 study found that men find women sexier if they’re wearing red, as opposed to cool colors such as blue or green. Strawberries are also an excellent source of folic acid, a B vitamin that helps prevent birth defects in women and may be tied to high sperm counts in men.

4. Seafood

And here comes my favorite. I could eat seafood every day for the rest of my life. Such a pity it is hard to find around here.

Despite their slippery and slimy texture, oysters may be the most well-known aphrodisiac. They’re also one of the best sources of libido-boosting zinc. But other types of seafood can also act as aphrodisiacs. Oily fish—like wild salmon and herring—contain , which are essential for a healthy heart. Lobsters(especially the liver), scallops and shrimp are some other well known seafood aphrodisiacs.

5. Citrus

Any member of this tropical fruit family is super-rich in antioxidants, vitamin C, and folic acid—all of which are essential for men’s reproductive health. Enjoy a romantic salad that incorporates citrus, like grapefruit or oranges, or use a dressing made with lemon and lime.

6. Bananas

By it shape its connection with sexuality is quite obvious, but you’ll also find that bananas are loaded with potassium, magnesium and B vitamins. It also contains detoxifying minerals and the bromeliad enzyme, which enhances the male libido.

7. Chocolate

The ladies will love this. Of course, chocolate is infamous for being a powerful food, and even the Aztecs referred to chocolate as "nourishment of the Gods." Chocolate contains phenylethylamine, or PEA, which is the same chemical (similar to amphetamine) released by the brain when people fall in love, producing a euphoric, dreamy feeling.

So there you have it: the seven sexiest foods on earth. Let us know which foods you have found to be natural aphrodisiacs.

Erectile Dysfunction

A few weeks ago a man walked into my office with his wife and pulled out a list of all the problems he was having (like an actual list on a piece of paper). He began reading out: "headache, abdominal pain, weakness,...." and so on. Eventually his wife walked out and immediately she did he leaned over and said "Doc abeg na d engine need servicing." I didn't understand immediately but the guy quickly explained that he couldn't get IT up. I almost laughed but I behaved myself. 

Erectile dysfunction is the inability to achieve or maintain an erection sufficient for satisfactory sexual performance. It is a very embarrassing, yet very common problem with men. And it is not a respecter of age, experience or even previous sexual prowess. Previously it was thought that ED only occurred in older men, but more recently we see it in younger men.

The major risk factors associated with ED are lack of exercise, smoking, obesity and even anxiety(about performance in bed).

And so it's not hard to see the things we as men must get rid of to prevent or reduce the incidence of erectile dysfunction. Like I always say, speak to your doctor about your experience and discuss possible solutions. Eat healthy, exercise, avoid smoking and stop worrying. Have a great day!